Tim's Birthday, June 23, 2008
Tim's Birthday, June 23, 2008
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SHARED MEMORIES OF TIM
7-04-2022, Dave, Debbie - Hey Tim, Tell your Uncle Billy I said Happy Birthday to him tomorrow. Say Hi to Grandpa and Grandma too. I hope you had a good 38th birthday last week, though you all in Heaven are likely not keeping track of them anymore, as you got all of eternity. See you all soon, well hopefully not real soon. :)
06-23-2021, Diane Schafer - Happy 37th Birthday Tim. Love you so much and think about you everyday. Miss you ❤ Love forever , Mom
06-23-2021, Dave, Debbie - Happy Birthday Tim, Say Hi to Grandpa and Grandma and look up Dick Hillary and tell him we said hi.
06-23-2020, Diane Schafer - Mom - Happy 36th Birthday to Tim today June 23 2020. I wonder what you would have thought of all this Covid stuff going on in the world, probably wouldn't have wanted to wear a mask! Had a piece of coconut cream pie this weekend and thought of you. Still thinking of you every day, it doesn't get easier. But remembering the good times too. I love you and miss you very much.
06-23-2020, Dave, Debbie - Happy Birthday Tim. We hope you are having a fun time in heaven with Jarrod. Say hi to Grandpa and Grandma for us. We love you all and miss all of you.
Diane Schafer - Mom - Happy Birthday Tim, my son.
You would be 35 years old today. The time sure does go by quickly
most of the time, but some days it seems like yesterday. You had a good
heart and I know your family and friends loved you very much. I
really miss you a lot.
06-23-2019, Dave, Debbie and Alice Schafer - Happy Birthday Tim. We hope you are having a fun time in heaven, say hi to Grandpa for us.
12-28-2018 Dave Schafer - Uncle Tim, Debbie and I were thinking about you today. Hope you and Jarad are having fun. Miss you.
Diane Schafer - Mom - Another Christmas has passed. Almost 9
years since your passing. Working on growth!
12-23-2017 Dave Schafer - Uncle Tim we missed having you at the Christmas dinner, but know you were there in our hearts. Merry Christmas Tim.
06-23-2017 Diane Schafer - Mom - Happy 33rd Birthday to Tim. I'm thinking of you even more today on your birthday. Brought some yellow flowers for you to your grave today and sang you Happy Birthday. I'm thinking you'd like how sunny and bright they look. I wanted to share some happiness. Not a day goes by that I don't think about you and miss you so much. Love, Mom
06-25-2016 Amanda Davidson Sitting on the deck this evening thinking about Tim. Remembering how much he liked my kids. He would be 31 now. No doubt a father. I bet he would have been great one. The kind that kids would run to the door when he got home yelling "Dad's home! Dad's home!". He was so much fun. I still miss him. Amanda
06-23-2016 Debbie Schafer - Thinking of you Tim on your 32nd Birthday. Wishing you were here. I would make you a blackberry pie. Your cousins and I miss you and think about you often. Love, Debbie
06-23-2016 Diane Schafer - Mom Happy 32nd Birthday to Tim! I love you and miss you so much.
06-23-16 Dave Schafer - Uncle Happy Birthday Tim. Andrew was bragging about you to his kids a while back. He told them that you held the record for the most crab rangoons eaten at one time at the Chinese Buffet. see you. Uncle Dave
06-23-2015 Diane Schafer - Mom
Was it just another day for you? Thoughts on June
06-23-15 Dave Schafer - Uncle Happy Birthday Tim. Amanda was over yesterday and was talking about the fun times she had with you growing up. Hope things are going good in heaven. see you. Uncle Dave
06-23-2014 Diane Schafer - Mom Happy birthday to my sweet Tim. This would have been your 30th birthday today, June 23rd. I remember the day you were born like it was yesterday. What joy you brought to my life. I miss you each and every day. Love Mom
06-23-14 Dave Schafer - Uncle Happy Birthday Tim. We all miss you.
12-28-2013 Alice Schafer - Grandma Dear Tim, my beloved grandson - can it be 5 years since you left us? We still miss you so much. I frequently drive by your grave, and have a little talk with you. I know you are not there, and can't hear me from where you are, but , for a moment, I feel closer to you. I have a feeling that it won't be long until I REALLY see you, and you can give me a guided tour of that blessed heavenly home where Jesus is, and so many of our friends are at Home there with you. Until then, remember Grandpa and I love you!!!!
12-25-2013 Diane Schafer - Mom Merry Christmas to my Tim. I woke up early this morning and made the drive up the hill to the cemetery to put some flowers on your grave. Just couldn't let a Christmas go by without remembering you. It was a very quiet, cold morning, with bright sunshine and frost all around. On Saturday Dec. 28 it will be 5 years since you passed on. No mother should ever have to spend Christmas morning at the grave of her son. It makes those moments we did have together all the more precious. They say it gets easier as the years go by but I find that very hard to believe and I would imagine those who say that have not lost a child. I'm grateful for the years you were with me but miss you so very much. As I was getting in the car to leave the cemetery a song came on the radio, "talks to angels" and was wondering what you were talking to the angels about, I bet those conversations are really something and I'm looking forward to being a part of them!
12-25-13 Dave Schafer - Uncle Tim a very Merry Christmas to you. Missed you at the family dinner last night, but know you are enjoying a much larger family now.
06-23-2013 Diane Schafer - Mom Happy 29th birthday to my sweet boy Tim. Missing you each and everyday and so looking forward to seeing you again.
6-23-2013 Alice Schafer - Grandma June 23 - that was such an important date for so many years - Tim's birthday. You would be 29 now. Has it been 5 years ago that you left us? We still think of you, and love you, and miss you so much. You are probably having a fantastic time in Heaven now, and wouldn't want to come back here even if you could., Grandpa is 91, and I am 85, so it can't be too long until we see you again. Until then, know that we appreciate the years God gave us with you, and I still remember the sound of your voice saying, "I love you, Grandma." See you soon, sweet boy.
12-28-2012 Alice Schafer - Grandma Four years have already gone by since we said "Goodbye" to you - and I still miss you, and think of you most every day. I can still see you standing by our front door on Christmas afternoon. I said, "Be careful, Tim. We love you." You smiled that beautiful smile of yours and said, "Don't worry about me, Grandma. I am going to be with Jared. He'll make sure I'm O.K." I sure wish you could have stayed with Jared longer than you did, because he always watched out for you. But for four years now you have been with Jesus, and I am sure that HE is making sure you are O.K. See you soon, sweet grandson of mine. Grandma
6-23-2012 Diane Schafer - Mom Today is my dear son Tim's 28th birthday. What a beautiful day today was, clear sky, cool with a lite breeze, and sunny. I think he would have loved this day and I think he would have liked the flowers I put on his grave this morning. Still not a day goes by that I don't think about him. Some days the memories are beautiful and happy and sometimes the loss is too much to bare. Happy 28th my sweet Tim! I love you.
6-23-2012 Alice Schafer - Grandma HAPPY 28th BIRTHDAY, Tim. Birthdays are probably an "Earthly" thing, and you don't care much about them in Heaven. But we thought about you today. We think about you every day - and miss you so much. Grandpa and I put flowers on your grave this afternoon and remembered how much we have loved you for 28 years. I have been sick for a couple of weeks and thought, for a couple of days, that I might be joining you there before too long - but, I am getting better - so guess it will be awhile. But when I do, after I see my blessed friend, Jesus, and greet my little boy, Billy, and my parents, and sisters, and friends - you can be sure that I will look for your sweet face and beautiful smile.
6-23-12 Jarad Michael Kidwell
6-28-11 Jarad Michael Kidwell Did I ever tell you about the laziest Sunday I ever spent with Tim? well it went like this: we were at my Grandma Deuel's house and i had 2 couches outside Tim on one and me on the other. we literally laid on those couches ALL DAY, just talking about whatever came to our minds. we both ended up falling asleep; then woke up and we both propped up our heads to look at each other only to reassure each other that we should lay around the rest of the day! It was literally the laziest Sunday I have had to this date. I love you and hope you are doing well. I am moving back to GV, so if you ever want to catch a cup of coffee I would be honored. Happy Birthday to the best man i ever knew...
6-23-11 Diane Schafer - Mom Happy 27th birthday my dear, sweet Tim. Not a day goes by that I don't think about you. I miss you so deeply. Love always, Mom
6-23-10 Dave Schafer - Uncle Today is Tim's birthday, and I just wanted to wish him a happy birthday, just in case they have an internet connection in heaven.
12-30-09 Jarad Michael Kidwell well i just got back from a road trip that i went on with Lauren Frediani. we went to a spot that Tim and i went to camp at in 2005 in big sur called Morena state park. there we mourned Tim and hung out under a tree that tim sat in for hours smoking cigars and watching the moon rise. we did this road trip on Dec. 28th 2009 a year from my best friends pass to heaven. i said a prayer for tim for his family to let him know that they loved him very much and then i began my own prayer.. you were my boy blue.. miss you tim..love always you best friend.
06-18-09 Dave Schafer - Uncle I used to use Tim's services when my real estate clients needed help moving into their new homes. Since Tim has passed, there have been several times, out of habit, that I almost called Tim to see if he was available to work. Tim was always appreciated when he worked for people, and he got excellent reviews by them all. He also used to do quite a bit of brush clearing at Grandma's and Grandpa's house. I, and Tim's brother Ben, have taken over that work, and I can guarantee you that we sure all miss him.
04-30-09 Jarad Michael Kidwell I miss you Tim!
04-09-09 Crystal Shrum Tim was a Great guy. He always seemed to know what to say when anyone was upset. I only knew him for about five years. I did not see him often, but when I did, he always lit up the room. He was always happy and always had a smile when I could not smile myself. He knew when I was sad, or mad, and knew how to calm me down from either one. He was my best friend, my brother, my sunshine - you could say. I remember the last time I saw him, we were eating candy and watching TV with my parents. We were laughing about the most random stuff. It was so fun. I will always remember him in the best ways, and love him like family. You will Always Be Remembered As The Greatest Friend.
02-02-09 Greg DeWolf Bearing the loss of Tim has been very difficult for me, as I loved him so much. I have bookmarked this page and have been a frequent visitor just to look at the family pictures, and see that young man who loved family, friends, and life. The tears still warm my cheeks when I think about Tim and how much I miss him. My tears also flow for Diane (Tim's mom) as I want to make the pain go away but know that I cannot take away this pain, it is something that only God and time can heal. It hurts to see such a wonderful woman hurt so deeply. I also know that his family misses him even more than I do, so I wanted you all to know that I continue to pray for you and for the loss you are facing. I know that God is the Great Comforter and the Great Healer and I pray He brings all of us comfort and healing. Tim you will never be forgotten, and you are missed so very much.
02-01-09 Laura Shugart Like many, I was introduced to Tim a few years ago through his good friend Jared Kidwell. The first time I met him, I saw that his smile would just fill up a room. Unfortunately by the time I met Tim, he was pretty heavy into his addictions. I, myself having dealt with some demons of my own, could identify with what he was going through. I know he wanted to get clean. I know that he was so upset with himself for burning any bridges he did, for betraying any friends along the way of his sickness. I didn't know Tim for too long but just long enough to know that he had a HUGE HEART and he LOVED SO DEEPLY. I wish I had more Tim in my life but now I am just grateful for every moment I spent with him. and Tim, thanks for being such a good friend to Jarad. HE loves you soooooo much. I got to see the two of you together. YOU may not have had anything else, but you had each other. I love you Tim, you were such a light despite all the bullshit. Hope your o.k., and most of all I hope you are safe and content. till next time buddy.... laura
01-31-09 Larry Hilsabeck I am Tim's uncle. Since I live in Southern Cal I didn't get to see Tim a lot in his older years but when Joann and I visited Grass Valley from time to time Tim always made sure he did the "family" thing by visiting with us; we always enjoyed being with him because of his friendly, loving manner. Looking through all the pictures of Tim you will see pictures of Tim and Daniel in there "camo" outfits playing "Army". This is when they lived in Southern Cal. also. I saw Tim a lot in those days because I was around my brother, Tim's dad a lot. It was pretty fun watching Tim growing up in those days. Joann and I drove up to Grass Valley in our RV to help support the family after Tim's passing. I don't believe in "signs" but I don't discount people who do. However, something weird happened. When we went to the cemetery a small twig about 1 foot long dropped on the top of our RV from the pine trees in the cemetery. It was hanging partially off the RV. I didn't want to climb up to get it and I figured it would drop off after driving away a few miles. We drove over to the Memorial for Tim and it was still there. Then we drove to our campground about 20 miles away and it was still there. A day later we drove 250 miles to our home in Corona and when we arrived that little twig was still there. I figured it must have got caught on something on top of the RV since it was very small and lightweight and I had been driving 65-70 miles per hour and there were sometimes gusts of winds. So, I climbed up on top of the RV and discovered there wasn't a single thing that would hold that twig from the cemetery for all those miles. Again, I don't believe in "signs" but Joann and I put the twig in water and we still have it today Jan 31. For us it is like we have a part of Tim with us. With Love Uncle Larry and Aunt Joann
01-30-09 Sharron Hilsabeck I just wanted to say thank you to the people at Hospice for their kind words, prayers and thoughts for Tim and the family. I ran into Tim's friend Julie there the other day and she told me about how the team there really cared for him, missed him, and thought he was always a very sweet guy. They also told me that they had put together and donated a brick in his name at the new Hospice of the Foothill Center, I think that is a wonderful memorial, and thank you so much for honoring him in this way.
Alice Schafer, Grandma Two weeks ago today,
we were sitting in church on a Sunday morning when an usher tapped Bill on the
shoulder with the message about an emergency phone call. The events that
followed are a bit of a blur to me: the rush to the hospital - the heart-tearing
bad news that Tim had passed away - the weeping, the hurt, the shock and
disbelief - the questions and "what ifs" and "if only"s - the grave-side service 8 days later and the beautiful Memorial
service at our church. Grandparents are not supposed to have to bury their
beloved 24 year old grandsons! You keep hoping that it is only a
nightmare, and that you will wake up, and he will still be with us. The
loving sympathetic friends help with their prayers and their kindness. The
pastors help. The family clinging together helps. But the greatest
help comes from the knowledge that God is with us - and Tim is with God!
For days now I have tried to write the words that express my grief over this
tragic loss, but every time I began to write I became overcome with emotions.
01-11-09 Paul Hindt I am very sorry to hear the news about Tim's passing. I knew Tim when we both went to Pleasant Valley School and had brief encounters with him off and on after high school. I know that Tim was struggling a lot with addiction and I feel I can empathize with him because I was fortunate to escape from that dark path. I am very sad that this has happened and I truly hope it can stand as a beacon of hope to others who might be dealing with their own demons of addiction. I will say that Tim is the 2nd person I have known to have been taken by addiction in the last couple of years and it is very frightening. Rest peacefully Tim, you were a very cool person (and an excellent bass player!). -Paul
01-10-09 Pam Wesolick/Erika's mom I'm very sorry for your loss. I wanted so much to come to the Memorial, but it was the first day of my new job. Tim was such a joy to know and his smile will be with me forever. My thoughts and prayers are with you always.
01-10-09 Sharron Hilsabeck Just a note to say how much he is missed. We have Ben with us tonight and I am so used to Tim either being here, OR asking Denny where he is at or what he is doing the weekend, as I guess it always gave me comfort to kind of know where all the kids were at and what they were doing, whether we saw them or not. It hurts to know he won't be here to eat his ice cream or his cookies, but am so glad he is with the Lord at the same time. We all will have these mixed feelings for years to come, intense sorrow that he is not physically here, and yet intense joy that he is with the Lord. God Bless you tonight Tim as you explore that heavenly city, we love you SOOO much.
Ashleigh Becker oh man...where to start? I'll
start with my favorite memory of Tim. Tim, and I, were little kid friends
at Pleasant Valley School. I believe it was 4th grade that Tim had
the biggest crush on this girl in our class, we were friends so of course I knew
all about the love affair. One day at recess, Tim got the news that his
girl wanted to kiss him...so all the kids gathered around in a huge circle
around Tim and his little lady. When they finally kissed the whole circle of
kids went crazy yelling and laughing. I don't know if that was his first
kiss, but it certainly brings a smile to my face thinking about our innocence ,
it's a sweet memory to have.
01-08-09 Sharron Hilsabeck I am Step mom to Timmy, and just wanted to post a short comment regarding the last comment from the lady from Hospice of the Foothills. Tim still had a lot of love for the folks he worked with there, and I wanted to mention a humorous statement that he told me after he had started working there. He was commenting on how there was a lot of nice people he worked with, and that also some of the senior ladies were like "Grandma's" to him, but he stated he had to be careful to not get too close with him as his real Grandma (Alice Schafer) may get jealous, and giggled about it.
01-08-09 Susan Sawyer Morton I was only around Tim briefly when he was a young boy playing and having a good time with his older brother, Daniel. Brandon, my older son, and Carlton, my youngest son, had stopped off to spend a few days with Aunt Alice and Uncle Bill on our way back to Atlanta from Hawaii, back in 1990. Carlton was only 4 at the time, but said he remembered Timmy and Daniel having so much fun playing soldiers in the yard on S. Ponderosa, and then running in the house for snacks. Even as a youngster he had a great zest for life and having fun. I am sure he will be sorely missed. We are so sad that his beautiful life has been cut so short and we do send our love, prayers, and condolences to the Schafer family, the Hilsabeck family, his mother Diane, and his brothers, uncles, aunts, cousins, and friends. After reading all of the most touching memories and comments by family and friends, I can certainly tell that Tim was exceptionally well loved by so many. I pray God's comfort on Tim's mother Diane, especially, at this time. Brothers Daniel, and Ben, and may God bless and comfort each and everyone of you at this time. Cousin Susan Sawyer Morton. Atlanta GA
01-08-09 Marilyn Brandfass - Hospice of the Foothills Tim was a sweet young man, and I really enjoyed talking with him when I saw him. He was always generous with his time and energy. It is so sad to lose someone so young. My thoughts are with you and your friends, family at this very sad time.
01-07-09 Quentin Ludwig I met Tim in elementary school and quickly he became one of my first true friends. Tim, I wish you could hear me when I say that you are loved by many. I will never forget you and what you meant in my life. Good friends are hard to find in life. I wish I had the perfect words for this type of thing but it never gets any easier. I will always remember the good times we had Tim.
01-07-09 Matt Hintze I had been Tim's stepbrother for years, but I've lived in Redding for over seven years so I didn't get the chance to know him as much as I would have liked. He came up here one day about three years ago to drop my car off that my mom had bought for me. We ended up talking for hours about music and life and mutual friendships. It amazed me that we loved all the same music; old Modest Mouse, Built to Spill, Elliott Smith, Jeff Buckley. But, he didn't strike me as a typical scene kid. He had so much life in him...I mean the way he would talk was so passionate, and he was incredibly accepting of your viewpoint. Even though I know he's probably with Jesus now, I don't want to admit he's gone. He was such a force to all who encountered him...I'll never forget him.
01-06-09 James Bratt My favorite memories of Tim were when we used go beat each other up at the boxing gym next to K-Mart. I remember his nose would bleed a lot so whenever he was kicking my ass, I'd try my best to give him a bloody nose so he'd stop. I will miss him very much, and my thoughts and prayers go out to all of his family and friends.
01-06-09 Roger Ramsaur ....... a moment of pause for you my friend.....I love you, I am in silent reflection with the news of your passing....you had a great genuine sense to the depths of you, and it always carried across in some form another.....I will miss you in this life friend, but I look forward to crossing paths again in the next....until then inspire us all in spirit...R
Hilsabeck (sister-in-law) Wow...what can I say!!
The service was so wonderful today because of all the family and friends that
were there to honor Tim. Dan and I married 3 months ago and it was such a
blessing that Tim was part of our special day. Doesn't he look handsome in that
tuxedo?? He was checking himself out in the mirror all day!!! The
very first picture on the top of the page is my favorite! That was taken
after me and Dan's wedding down in Old Sac. He was holding my purse for
01-05-09 Derilyn Childs (cousin of Diane) How sorry we are to hear about Tim. We are praying for you.
01-04-09 Graham Hayes Tim had a uniquely kind heart and I admired his laugh inducing wit. I met Tim in early high school. I remember going to a concert at the NCCA and I ended up going over to Tim's house with a gang of folks to camp in the woods at the bottom of the property. We laughed all night around a bonfire. It was a Friday night, and the next morning I woke up really early before everyone else had. I remembered that I had to meet my mom in downtown Grass Valley that morning. Being the neurotic introvert I was in high school, I was too nervous to wake anyone up and ask them what time it was. I had to meet my mom at 8, and the sun was already up, and having driven out there in the dark I had no idea where I was. So I just got up out of the tent quietly and ran from Tim's McCourtney house, all the way into downtown Grass Valley - and with a horrible side ache I found out it was only like 7. This was my first time ever hanging out with Tim. The next Monday at school, Tim came up to me before class and shook me and lovingly exclaimed something to the effect of "&^@)*?" - He went on to tell me that he looked for me for hours down there, figuring I went to go pee in the bushes and fell over or something. He even went back down on Sunday for an hour or so to look around some more, screaming "grrrrahhhhhaammmm!!!" at the top of his lungs. Being kind of friendless at the time, I felt really comforted that Tim cared enough about me to keep looking for me. A favorite memory of Tim that always comes up for me... is on the morning waking up on the couches at a party at Alela's house. Tim was asking everyone the one thing they wanted to do before they died. Tim said that the thing he wanted to do was just to make one really good joke. I remember thinking, 'that is the cleverest, most humble and great thing... just to make something funny.' That was who Tim was to me... the funniest, most humble, honest, and accepting friend. May the loss of Tim bring us all closer together in this perpetually challenging, overwhelmingly beautiful eternal life!
01-04-09 Denise Grafton Bless you all as you grieve for the sudden loss of Tim! I only met him one time a number of years ago and recall a very engaging young man, in love with the mystery of life! My thoughts and prayers are with you all...With love, Cousin Denise
Delwiche Tim convinced me to buy my first Elliott Smith
record, Either/Or, when I was sixteen. I'd seen Elliott Smith play at the
Oscars, and had written off the hype about him to some obsession that people had
with breathy neo-Beatles wuss music, but the way he told me to buy it was
convincing enough that I bought it right there on the spot. He wasn’t working,
just perusing, and took the time to tell me that if I knew what was good for me
I would buy that record. Not only did he care enough about music to take the
time to recommend something to me that he knew I could probably use in my life,
but he recognized that music was something important enough to be shared.
01-03-09 Matthew Tingey My life would not have been as good as it was without knowing Tim, My name is Matt Tingey and I always saw Tim to an equal to me (this is because we were both born in the sign of cancer, although he was on the cusp of gemini and I was on the cusp of leo. I could not help crying last night when I read the posts from friends and family on http://timhilsabeck.com because we all were those people that Timothy made smile and in which he opened his heart to all. Looking back I can remember disking/hanging out at muscle beach (a lot of us were introduced to him by his good friend Jarad Kidwell). I had not seen Tim in awhile (I thank God I got to see him a few months ago) I was not really aware of his recent addictions, I can tell you that us cancers are very emotional people, we are also very outgoing and that is how I will remember Tim as the person who always made sure people were having a good time. No matter how he was feeling :) (You could walk up to Tim and not even know him and he would talk to you like he had known you for years! He Sure Had Guts! And that is something that I see less and less in mainstream people, I will always value our friendship Tim as you were and always will be a Gentleman and a Scholar.
Spathelf I first met Tim in 7th or
8th grade. He and Nick Gilbert used to "pick on me", but little did Tim know
what I would be to him in the future. We became good friends after sophomore
year and the friendship never ended. Shortly after high school Tim and I started
dating and that's when I fell in love. This man had such a huge heart, and he
gave me so much of it. I always laughed with Tim and have only the best of
memories. Tim and I lived together for 2 years and those two years may have been
our hardest, but it's what made our love grow so deep. We could never let go of
one another. In the last few years that we have not dated, he never became
anything less than the love of my life. I wanted so badly for him to heal
himself, and I did everything I could possibly do to let him know that I was
there, always. I wish I would had said it more to him, but I know even without
words he knew he was the one for me and I, the one for him. One day again we
shall meet and I will forever be with the one I love, always and forever.
01-02-09 Kristine Mason
As I sit here and read posts written by loved ones (friends and family) I wish I
new Tim better. I would only ask about 'the boys - when I would into the office
(Lifetime). You see, I worked with Diane; and she has been a true inspiration to
me, not only professionally but personally. I have watched her raise her kiddos
for many years now and I know her as a strong, loving and understanding Mother
and friend. I sit and grieve for you Diane as well as your family. Tim was a
beautiful son and man. His struggle was within himself and not with his Lord. He
is now at rest in the arms of Jesus.
01-02-09 Amanda Fry Tim was a good pal. Like Sean, I met him in high school through Jarad. Jarad and I were best friends through middle school then when we started dating Sophomore and Junior year so I got to spend a lot of time with Timmy. I always felt very protective of him for some reason. I think it's because he had such a pure, kind soul. Very rare kinda dude. He had the best sense of humor about everything, just his presence made me smile. We would sit on the wall everyday during 4th period lunch just taking in the scene. He was always a comfort to me. Even if he wasn't feeling comfortable he still made me feel at ease somehow. I'm comforted just thinking back. I hope that he's feeling peaceful now. I miss him
01-02-09 Sean Sanford I met Tim through Jarad Kidwell when I was a senior and Tim was a sophomore at Nevada Union High School. I remember the day we met, I was giving him and Jarad a ride to their homes on S. Ponderosa. We were walking up the stairs by the Don Bagget Theater when some thugged out junior walked by and muttered something to Tim. Jarad turned immediately and said something to the effect of: "Hey! What's your problem with Tim?" after which the dude asked him what he was talking about.
"You've been talking all this trash on him. Do you even know Tim?"
"I know he's a little punk."
After which Jarad made it apparent that if dude was to continue harassing Tim behind his back, he'd have to answer to Kidwell!
Tim didn't have any trouble after that. After seeing this I remember thinking, wow, these guys are really close...and this Tim kid must be alright. I immediately sensed a brother like relationship between Tim and Jarad. I hung out with those two for years thereafter and became very close friends with Tim. I even got him his job at Ike's! Towards the end I didn't see him much because I moved out of town and he started doing his own thing but I always asked about him when I came to Grass Valley. I was worried about Little Timmy. I know we all were. I also know that as we speak he's having a grand old time yucking it up with Sam and Brandin. I love you Tim. I miss you, brother.
01-02-09 Jarad Michael Kidwell From age four (Tim), and five (me), we have been best of friends - doing everything together. Let me tell you a bit about my best friend "little Timmy". He was the youngest of the kids on the block that hung out everyday; hence the name little Timmy. We went to school together at Hennessy where we would meet two recesses each day to play ninja turtles. Tim always had the cooler ninja turtles as his parents somehow always new what the cool ninja turtles were, and bought them for him - good parents! Later, Tim transferred to another school, but we would still meet up after school to patrol the street in our army gear with Dan, Jon, Kenny, and Jorge, and we did an exceptional job - meaning there was no crime :)
So, when Tim was 7, and I was 8, we began to get
interested in girls. I remember one imaginary afternoon where Tim, and I,
pretended we had girlfriends on our backs. We were in the back yard with
our girlfriends on our backs - and we heard a helicopter above us.
So we said, "we got to protect our girls" and began to run in zig zag formation
in order not to let the imaginary girlfriends on our backs come into any harm.
hahaha. That's a fun memory.
What a great man he was. My best friend, Tim.
01-02-09 Sharron Hilsabeck When I am feeling better, I will post a longer memory and statement of Tim. For now, I just wanted to make a short statement of how much we loved him, and how we are in a zombie state of grief. Last night we were praying about how it is so hard to accept he is not here. As joyous in one way it is to know he is with the Lord, it is so hard to not have him physically here. Last night it seemed to feel like the Lord was saying that even though we find it so hard for him to be gone, we feel Tim is where TIM wants to be, and that is with the Lord and happy. So, then all we can do is have the strength to give him back to God and celebrate his life. Although I love him dearly and have been his stepmother for 10 years, there is no pain like losing your birth child, and my heart, love, and respect go out to Diane and Denny with all my being. We will all have good and bad days, and on this roller coaster of grief today has been a tough one, we are in true mourning. My prayers are with the ALL rest of his family too, especially his Grandparents, brothers, and Aunts and Uncles. God Bless you for the tender roles you have played in his life, and he has always expressed such love for you.
01-01-09 Christa Butkiewicz - I am Christa. I am Tim's step-sister. I remember lots of great things about Tim. I remember us all at Boca Lake on Father's day with him and Dennis playing guitar. I remember him at my Moms playing Xbox and teaching my nephews and Ben all the tricks to win. There's a lot more that I can say but I'd be here forever. Bottom-line, he was a sweet man with a great personality and a huge warm smile. He will be missed, and I know in my heart he is with the Lord, and in that, I find my only comfort.
01-01-09 Noel Mendoza - Hi, I'm his nephew. Tim was fun and we always had a good time. We would always play Xbox 360 with his brother Ben and we would also go fishing. I'll miss him. He was a great uncle and I will see him in heaven.
01-01-09 Mom, Diane Schafer - My beloved son Tim went to be with the Lord on Sunday December 28, 2008. I will miss him so very very much. He was truly a precious soul. From a very early age I could see that Tim had a very good and tender heart. He felt and cared so very deeply for all of his short 24 years. I have wonderful memories of many long talks we had about life, God, family and friends. Even through the turmoil of the struggles he faced I could still feel the great love he had for his family along with his brokenhearted sorrow that those he so dearly loved would not know how much he truly cared about them.
Tim had a passion for music, playing the bass guitar, watching anything on TV that was related to science and history. I can remember him talking about certain things about science and being amazed with the knowledge he had. He loved the stars and reading about them. He enjoyed hiking, swimming, camping, and shooting with his dad and brothers. Tim loved sitting out on our deck listening to the creek and whittling on a piece of wood. We had many of our talks out there on that deck. He had a great love of cooking but really really enjoyed Ben and Jerry’s Cherry Garcia ice cream, Claim Jumper Coconut Crème Pie, those little shortbread cookies in the red package, and Brown Cow Crème Top vanilla yogurt .
I know Tim is in heaven now where there are no more tears or struggles. No longer is he facing the nightmare of addiction. He is finally free and has found true peace in the arms of his loving Savior Jesus.
12-31-08 Amanda Davidson - Our
memories of Tim could easily be clouded by more recent life struggles that he
had faced, but this is how I choose to remember my cousin "Me Me"
I loved my cousin Tim, and will cherish the good times we spent together.
12-31-08 David Schafer - I am
Tim's uncle and knew him his whole life. I am putting together this website out
of respect for him, and I will miss him very much. There are a bazillion things I
can share about Tim, but I will keep it down to just a few for now.
I always enjoyed when visiting him when he would
show me his Albert Einstein action figure, great posters, and memorabilia he got
from working at the thrift store.
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